Would you consider an exaggeration a lie? (What about when you “didn’t read that text” from a friend?) We all have versions of a little white lie, but is this secretly hurting you along the way?
We do this all the time without even realizing it… even a baby will fake cry for attention! But if we bring awareness to a lie today, we can live a more peaceful life with our kids tomorrow.
An expert in lying, Laurie Gerber joins me to discuss how truth-telling unlocks a sense of freedom to live the life you’ve always wanted.
Show highlights include:
- What the 7 categories of lies reveal about your compassion toward others (and how to stop letting lies slip under the radar) (10:01)
- Why telling the truth feels like opening Pandora’s box and how to get comfortable with confrontation (without turning into an unhappy person) (16:42)
- Why bringing a lie to light shapes the happiest and most trustworthy kids (while building a stronger family dynamic) (24:20)
- What the childhood playground taught us about secrets—and how to get friendships back stronger than ever (33:00)
- What the ‘Handel Method’ says about your latest excuse (and 3 steps to becoming a more truthful person today) (39:00)
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Thanks for another great podcast. Felt like this topic was consistent with a podcast: “What do you pretend NOT to know?”.
I totally agree that we can learn to hide in “lies” about our lives and that society may allow us to continue along such a path for far too long. I can certainly get on board in terms of being honest and transparent with oneself, all the time.
However, as a physician (and mother and wife and friend, etc.) who employs motivational interviewing techniques, being 100% honest 24/7 doesn’t work for me! Since behavioral change is a guided unraveling process, as you know well at BB, the most effective change occurs when a firm yet less confrontational approach is taken.
A small footnote regarding the Southern US:
Albeit unauthentic at times, this sort of half-truth telling to protect others or act with sensitivity is ingrained over many years and hard to undo! It’s funny, because I am the most honest person in my extended family. While some appreciate it, others run! I appreciate your shining a light on a practice that isn’t 100% on point in becoming a self-actualized individual. It helps me to rethink some interactions and how to nip things in the bud more quickly- even if it can be uncomfortable.
Meant to say – consistent with your PAST podcast