Pumpkin Spice Lattes for a Change

October 2, 2015

I’m Cherylanne.
I am the trusted advisor ambitious women want in their corner to help them fully embody their potential.
Need help managing your energy?
Download Now

talk to a coach

listen to the podcast

free resources

follow on social

Invite Cherylanne to Speak

Stop Feeling So Tired All The Time: 8 hacks for working women that really work!

download my free guide:

‘Tis the season for all things cozy and warm. I know just the words “Pumpkin Spice Latte” evoke an emotional (okay, Pavlovian) response from more than one of you. I’m more of a “Tall-Blonde-Half-Caf-Room-For-Cream” kind of girl myself, but apparently there’s not a specific season for that. Whatever, Starbucks.


We’re snuggling up to Fall these days and I for one couldn’t be more ready. Drag out the blankets for the sofa and my tall boots that have been in storage and I’m one happy girl. It’s my Northeastern upbringing that started my love affair with fall and it was my years at Cornell that solidified it. You haven’t lived till you’ve been in Ithaca, NY in the fall. A-ma-zing.

The curious thing about Fall is that we all seem to love it even though it signifies change in such visible ways – I mean, it’s basically shouting “WINTER IS COMING! IT’S GOING TO BE COLD. AND DARK. FOR MONTHS.” from its orange and red treetops, and yet we’re still happy!

Maybe we’re distracted by the spectacular leaves or the crisp cool air or all those pumpkin spice lattes, but it’s one of the few times in which we readily embrace change instead of resisting it.

Normally, we’d rather remain miserable than do the work required to change something in our lives, because the process of change seems so arduous.

But, is it really?

Intentional change plays out across five stages and they’re not all difficult. In fact, three out of five can even be fun.

Let’s say, as an example, that you decide to start writing in a journal every day. Here’s how it might unfold across the five stages of change.

1) Resistance – This is when you’re contemplating a change and then 542 reasons why you should not or cannot make it happen begin to surface. “Well, I don’t have a journal and I can’t just write my thoughts on notebook paper for heaven’s sake. Besides I have absolutely no time to write. I mean when would I water my plants/exercise/watch TV/read/talk to my sister? And I don’t even have a decent pen. Plus I’m a terrible writer.”

2) Exhilaration – This happens right after you finally decide to make the change, when your subconscious kicks off a pep rally in your honor to reinforce your decision. “Whoo hoo! I am a genius! All the smartest and most successful people keep journals. I’m going to be great at this. Ooooh, you know what? These journals could be published one day. Forget pens. Maybe I should buy a writing desk!”

3) Uphill Battle – These are the days and weeks of implementing new behaviors. They require conscious thought and extraordinary effort so you can etch new habits into the lines of your life. You’ll try various things to hard-wire the new process into your day. “I am going to set a timer for 10 minutes and write before I do anything else in the morning. I’m going to create a list of topics I might want to write about one day so I can push through writer’s block. I’m not going to let myself eat lunch until I’ve written in my journal.”

4) Momentum – You begin to pick up speed when those same, not-so-new-anymore behaviors become more automatic and start to require less effort. You’ll feel things like this. “Wow, I wrote for 20 minutes today without even noticing! I could write about this thing that just happened at the soccer game. That conversation I just had feels like something I should write about.

5) New Normal – By this stage you’re thinking “Change? What change? Haven’t I always lived this way?” And you’re probably recruiting others to your new way of living. “I bought you this journal for your birthday because I just love writing in my journal every morning and I know you’ll love it, too!”

How long it takes for these five stages to play out varies based on how big the change is and how much of your focus it can muster, but the stages are always there.

Did you notice that one of the most difficult moments was deciding to make the change – fighting off all the internal dialog telling you that you can’t or shouldn’t? And did you notice that as soon as you do decide, your inner critic morphs into your inner cheerleader before your very eyes? It’s that cheerleader who you need on your side through the uphill battle until you create your own momentum and settle into a new normal. Getting her in gear is EVERYTHING.

If the voice in your head these days sounds more like the inner critic heading up the Resistance, let’s try this. Go get yourself a Pumpkin Spice Latte and see if you can quiet her down. Let her know this is the day you’re beginning anew. And then let the exhilaration kick in.

It’s Fall. Change is in the air. Twitter_logo_blue

Add a comment
+ show Comments
- Hide Comments

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

On the Air

The Brilliant Balance Podcast

Ambitious women like you have a LOT to do. So, if you want to spend less of your life on what you "have to do" and more on what you "want to do," then join me each week for ideas, inspiration, and insight on how to make the shift.

LIsten in
prioritize you

Work with us

Schedule a free session to share your story and see what's possible for you.

talk to a coach


Keep up with the latest from Brilliant Balance and add a daily dose of inspiration to your social feed!