“Put on your own oxygen mask first.”
This saying is pretty common nowadays, and we understand to an extent what it means. It’s taken from instructions given to passengers on an airplane before it takes off. In this context, it basically cautions us that, if the air quality gets too low and oxygen masks drop from the ceiling of the plane, we need to DEFY our natural instinct to put on the masks of our kids/family/friends before our own.
Because while we’re taking care of everyone else, we might run out of oxygen ourselves, and then what happens? Well, everyone is going to suffer at that point because we aren’t going to be useful to any of them.
I mean, now that I think about it, you know that message is totally targeted toward moms.
Because that’s how we live our lives – without even thinking about it. We know that as women, we carry the mental load. Also, there is something within us that is wired to feel extreme satisfaction when those we love are well taken care of – when our kids get a really good night’s sleep, when they take seconds of a super healthy meal, or even when their soccer jersey is bright and clean just in time for their game.
I’m not saying this is bad – this is just within us. But let’s talk about what you’re doing for YOURSELF in the midst of everything.
I’ll tell you what you’re doing – most likely, close to nothing.
Because it feels selfish.
And let’s face it – being called selfish is usually a bad thing. Yet being selfish at the right point in time can actually be good – it can even help you make an amazing impact in OTHER people’s lives.
In other words: You get to serve those you love (including yourself) by being selfish at the right moment. You’ll find out when those right moments are in this episode of Brilliant Balance.
Show highlights include:
- Why taking care of yourself is NOT selfish and actually benefits those you love. (6:10)
- 2 questions to ask yourself to determine if doing something you enjoy is really selfish. (8:30)
- Why you need to invest both time and money in yourself to improve the lives of your loved ones. (15:30)
- The difference between “strategically selfish” and frivolously selfishness. (18:10)
Oh, and are you waiting for someone to give you permission to join us at Brilliant Balance Live? Then it’s time to be strategically selfish. Tickets are going fast, so register today and join us in Cincinnati!